If you were to log your activities every hour, for one week, what would your life look like?
Would your activities align with your priorities? Do they reflect clear, forward action on your goals?
How much of your hours are spent without a specific intention? Where are you wasting time?
When the new year kickstarted, I came down with a nasty bout of bronchitis. It had me out of commission for 2 weeks. I accomplished nothing. Waiting for my prescriptions to kick in, I found myself examining these questions.
I have been working to help people organize their lives for some time now. And one of the biggest questions I always get is, "How do I get back on track when life happens and things go off the rails?" And I have always had the same response: "Life happens. You have to roll with the punches and then use your habits and routines to get back to normal."
We're all familiar with life situations that throw things off course. Illness, holidays, vacations. These things happen and I've always practiced an attitude of grace and understanding when they pop up.
But that's actually NOT the best answer I can give. See, at the end of the day, the people who reach their goals are those who take consistent action towards them, daily. No matter what life throws at them. That toughness (resilience?) is what sets the winners apart from the dreamers.
It's too easy to say, "oh well, I was going to do X but now I have to do Y." Humans can excuse their way out of anything.
But if you REALLY want 2018 to be different. If you want to accomplish your wildest dreams, you have to find a way to do the work every day. No matter what.
Every time you are helping someone else with their dream, you're putting your own on hold. Every problem you solve for someone else keeps you from solving one of your own. And that's where my secret for making 2018 YOUR year comes from.
You have to choose yourself first.
As a woman, a nurturer, a wife, this is the most difficult thing for me. I want nothing more than to be everything to everyone. It's in my core identity to serve those I love most. The guilt can be unbearable.
But I have to step back. I have to make myself a priority too.
I'm not saying to say "No" to everyone always. And I'm not saying that serving others isn't fulfilling. My point is to be conscious of what you'll be trading. Everytime you say "Yes" to someone else, you're really saying "No" to yourself.
Choosing your goals over someone else's is not selfish or indulgent. It's necessary. Every woman deserves to live a full life, pursuing her goals, without guilt.
Don't let the years fly by as you're busily helping everyone else. You deserve to write your own life story. You deserve a happy, fulfilling, dreamy life. And the only way to have that is to make YOU your first priority.
Time is your most precious asset. Spend it working on your dream life.
Make 2018 YOUR year by choosing YOU.